The Gift of Giving

I have two brothers and no sisters, at least not ones by birth. But I have been lucky, my soul search, my quest for identity, has been guided by two amazing friends. They are my soul sisters. Both are natural givers. I realise what I admire most is their natural gift of giving. I’ve found, when givers unite, they share, and wow is it powerful.

I discovered my community is a community of the present and, of my deep past. I recognise being part of a community of women. Wise women, sisters in spirit who worked toward healing the earth and serving the people. I am a giver. I feel happy when I am being a giver. I feel content and peace at heart level, when I give.

Problem is, there are many in the commercial world who don’t get it. They devalue givers and ‘sell’ the concept that being a giver is a negative because people take advantage. They claim being a giver means you are not taking care of yourself, or that being a giver means you’re not making choices for yourself or not doing what you really want. They say we all need to be at least a little selfish. After many years of soul searching, I can finally say, for me, that’s bullshit!

Natural givers are nurturers because that is ‘who’ they are. It is their natural state and mother nature, karma, law of attraction, life forces or whatever you call that intangible force that surrounds, loves and guides us, takes care of us. We can be ourselves, we can be givers and we can be proud of being givers.

I think the people who try to encourage givers to ‘think more about themselves’ may simply be projecting elements of fear within themselves.  I question if they are worried that if they give, people may expect more of them and, in that case, they are scared they won’t have enough to give. Maybe they feel guilty because they are not natural givers. Non natural givers may be looking for validation for their own behaviour by telling people who give, not to ‘put others first’. Perhaps they haven’t realised it is ok not to be a natural giver – because, whether we’re a giver or not a giver, we each need the space to be ourself.

I guess the reason for sharing this is to encourage the natural givers of the world. Embrace who you are, see the gift you offer the world and allow, gratitude. Please listen to the voice of your heart when it says “yes” – even if it means ignoring the voice of the head when doubt creeps in and you start to wonder why you do what you do. Trust in the power of being your natural self. Remember your soul self and, if you feel tired, have faith in the community of givers. When givers unite, they share.